Sex is something that’s difficult to ignore in our lives because it’s everywhere in our culture. It’s reflected in newspapers, TV adverts, fashion, music, and movies.
You do think we would all be open and comfortable with it but often the opposite is true.
In fact, many young people find it extremely difficult to talk about sex openly, it can be a sensitive topic that raises feelings of embarrassment.
Given all the negative messages that most of us (advocates) receive about sex when we are in field talking about safer sex but this is not a surprise.
A lack of sex education means most of us don’t even have relatively basic information. In our society sex is just not an acceptable topic for conversation. To be silent about sex keeps us ignorant and it’s vitally important that we talk openly about sex as a society preferably starting at primary school level.
Sexual conversation involves a degree of risk by talking about sex with your children, we can become vulnerable to judgment but you have to do it.
Revealing sexual wants, needs and desires to your kids can be scary, especially when the society’s reaction is not positive, which can make you feel humiliated.
Many of my elders tell me that they are the only ones who find it difficult and they believe most of their daughters/sons are having great sex lives.
We are led to believe that sex is something that comes naturally and we should be instinctively good at it, which just isn’t true. We are taught from a young age how to perform most basic human tasks and when older, we learn how to study and get a job. But we are supposed to know how to have sex, when to have it and with who.
Having sex is an extremely intimate act, we can feel very vulnerable and uneasy, and find it difficult to have a dialogue.
Talking about sex is the only way to have better HIV free environment. Educate your kids, let them read more books, magazines about sexuality, might prevent them from acquiring HIV/AIDS and other diseases.
If you don’t have the right sexual facts, your communication will be much more difficult. Expressing appreciation to your Kids is critical for them to feel confident.
Too many of us don’t know how to talk about sex and sexual health on a personal level, with your children or friends. Some important information doesn’t get to the people who need it.
We need to make sure that people, especially young people, have access to good accurate information, and we need to promote tolerant, inclusive attitudes towards everyone regardless of their sexual preferences or orientation.
Encourage people to talk about sex…