When you get married or start a relationship the idea of staying faithful seems like an easy one for most people.
But time and circumstances can bring changes in a relationship. Even if your relationship is solid, temptation can appear when you least expect it and have an effect that takes even you by surprise.
Cheating is always a bad choice in a relationship.
Say I love you and mean it. The words “I love you” are powerful and should be taken seriously. Make a point to remind your partner that you love her or him but to remind yourself why.
Finding reasons to value and appreciate your partner is crucial to maintaining your connection and therefore overcoming temptation. Take a moment to think about the reasons you love your partner. Tell your partner what they are and let your partner know how much your relationship means to you.
Spend time together. Seems simple but we all know with work, life in general people can fall into that ships passing in the night routine. Too much time spent with others and not balanced with needed time together can create disconnection and allow temptation.
Steer clear of bad influences. When friends are behaving badly it can start to open the door. If you have a friend who is cheating, distance yourself.
If you feel the need to counsel your friend on making better choices then do so but beware of your friend’s influence on you. People look for excuses that make their bad decisions seem okay and some people can be very persuasive.
They may even draw you in with comparisons between your life and theirs. Remember that even people you respect and love can make poor and damaging choices.
Have sex with your partner. Sex is not the only way or reason people cheat but it is one of the most common. Relationships can fall into a rut and there are a number of reasons your sex life may suffer but a healthy sex life is as important a component in a healthy relationship as anything else.
So make an effort to keep the passion alive. If your partner isn’t interested find out why. Maybe there is something you need to address within your relationship or something going on with your partner that he or she needs to talk about.
Cheating can be a relationship killer. An affair makes staying in a marriage or relationship very difficult. At best it takes years to overcome and some of the damage can never be undone.
If you find yourself thinking about straying, consider changing your surroundings. You can’t always control your internal reaction to others, but you can control your outward behavior and your exposure to temptation.
If you can’t seem to get past the urges to cheat you should consider speaking with a professional counselor.