It takes more than attraction and money to sustain a relationship


Many of us want to be in meaningful relationships but nowadays things are complicated, making a relationship long term while staying together is much easier said than done. The initial spark is great but it takes a lot more than attraction to sustain a relationship

What are some ways we can keep a healthy relationship and enjoy longevity with our partners? Do you feel that you can communicate easily about anything with your partner from personal needs to taboo topics? Do both of you take the time to listen and encourage each other? Good communication means using a sort of technique which includes welcoming body language, concentrative listening and respectful language. 

This might sound strange but arguing sometimes is healthy in a relationship otherwise you are probably just bottling up your feelings and letting them turn into resentment. Couples who communicate well can argue effectively. Both parties can state their opinions while trying to understand where the other people are coming from. They also know when to apologize when they are wrong. However, this point should not be confused with destructive fighting in which couples use aggressive behaviour and language to hurt each other when they disagree about an issue.

It’s normal to turn to close friends and family for relationship advice when you are running into conflict with your partner but making your problems public on social media can damage the trust you have built with your partner. Everyone needs a sense of privacy to feel safe

The more you get to know your partner, the more you may get on each other’s nose which is normal. We all get a little agitated from time to time and start to do things we don’t mean that can upset our partners, but holding a grudge even after apologizing sincerely, can hurt your relationship in a long run. Be sure to talk things out instead when you are upset and learn to let go.

It takes a lot of time to build a healthy relationship. Healthy couples understand that the key to a long-lasting relationship is commitment, open communication and compromise. 

Being in a healthy relationship does not mean that you are always With your partner.  It means you have separate lives, interests and friends and you can maintain your sense of individuality. Without fearing that your partner is going to be jealous. Having a life outside of a relationship is essential. 

Healthy couples can spend time away without worrying about their whereabouts or who they are. Stalking a pattern on social media and asking them for constant updates, however, is a sign of trust issues. Trust means respecting your pattern’s decision and feeling secure. 

Whether on dinner dates or cuddling on a culture, you enjoy that moment together with no matter what. Sparing time out of your busy schedule to connect with your partner is part of a healthy relationship. It’s not just an obligation but a way for you to enjoy life. 

Great couples share common interests and enjoy hanging out together and making each other laugh. Just like best friends healthy couples can talk about anything and comfort each other without fear of judgement. It’s important to feel comfortable with your partner. 

Healthy relationships are not a power struggle. They are a partnership that allows both Individuals to have equal say. If you disagree on which restaurant to go to for a date, one of you may have to give in but next time the choice should be yours. Compromise is key. 

Sex is extremely beneficial in a healthy relationship. Intimacy can be bonding sexually or otherwise. Maintaining a healthy relationship means quoting your partner with affection, quality time, gift-giving or other forms of love language.

Fixing is not the same as supporting. Healthy relationships can Consist of couples that love their partners for who they are, not who they want them to be. 

Are there things on this list that you and your partner do regularly? If yes, you must be in a long term relationship with your partner. If No, try them out.

Good luck! 

Written by: Mutsinzi Hannington


Frank Byaruhanga is a human rights activist with years of experience in community dialogues, digital communication, advocacy and digital campaigns. He specializes in Media Relation Work, Management and Training with sufficient knowledge in Governance, Accountability, Sexual Reproductive Health and Rights, Youth-led research, Content developer, Creative Activism, Social Media Management and documentary photography.

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