Experiences and feelings made you the person you are today-Muyinda Reagan

A family is a group of people traditionally consisting of a mother, father, grandparents and siblings. But you can’t judge a word by definition because language evolves. It changes to better fit in the world in which it exists and sometimes the evolution is not quite as speedy as it needs to be. Sometimes I personally wish I was told this when I was younger and this is because from a very early age I was haunted by the word family. Everywhere I went I was constantly being reminded of what family was supposed to be and how my family did not fit the definition. As a young person I grew up in what many people refer to as a broken home but when you are young and are being told your home is broken it somehow makes you feel that it’s you that is broken even though personally you don’t feel broken and you are living in a very loving environment.  That definition of family was always ringing in my ears while growing up, but now that I have grown I have come to realize just how ridiculous it was to be so obsessed with a close-minded definition of such abroad word and what has brought me to this realization is growing up and getting to meet people from all sorts of family situations i.e. families with two mums, two Dads, families with only grandparents and this has made realize that just like me, these families don’t fit that perfect definition. I, therefore, argue based on my experience that family is more than DNA and this is not to decimate the importance of DNA but it’s not the factor that makes or breaks a family and saying that it is like saying that your skin colour, hair colour is what makes you. Just like it’s your experiences and feelings that make you the person that you are today it’s your feelings and experiences with others that make them your family.

Written by Muyinda Reagan; A youth and good governance Activist; reaganmuyinda@gmail.com

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Frank Byaruhanga is a human rights activist with years of experience in community dialogues, digital communication, advocacy and digital campaigns. He specializes in Media Relation Work, Management and Training with sufficient knowledge in Governance, Accountability, Sexual Reproductive Health and Rights, Youth-led research, Content developer, Creative Activism, Social Media Management and documentary photography.

5 Comments

  1. Amanya Belinda Reply

    Wow! This is a brilliant analysis, and indeed family goes beyond DNA…
    When we get to live lives that have been touched by so many people even those “non family”, we get to appreciate the results of life much better..
    And widen the definition of FAMILY!

    Thank you Mr. Muyinda Reagan

  2. Robert Sylivester Reply

    The final phrase.

    Just like it’s your experiences and feelings that make you the person that you are today it’s your feelings and experiences with others that make them your family.

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